Now that I am 27 years old, I finally feel that I am old enough to understand what has so far helped me in my life, what went wrong and what I learned. Therefore, in this post, I want to share with you my 27 life lessons learned in 27 years.
1. Always be open, honest and direct with the people around you. Know when to say “no”.
For a long period of time, I was afraid of saying “no” to others. I felt that if I would say it, I would hurt their feelings. As a result, I often ended up in situations in which I didn’t want to be, just to please the other person. Not only I wasn’t honest with the other person, but I also went against myself.
At one point I realized that people were using me, and that is when I learned to be direct. Unfortunately, I learned it the hard way. But now that I know that you can’t please everyone, it’s so much easier to live. And if others can’t respect your honesty, then it’s their problem, not yours.
2. Nobody owes you anything. It’s easy to be the victim and feel angered at others.
When things go wrong, it’s so much easier to point fingers and say that it’s because of him or her. But the reality is that no one owes you anything. If you don’t like how someone is treating you, then walk away. This life lesson is as simple as that.
You are the one that got yourself there in the first place. When you realize this, you will be able to either accept things or change them.
3. Exercise is a must.
There were moments in my life when I was having absolutely no exercise. That is when I was the most tense and stressed out.
Not only physical exercise makes your body fit, it also removes toxins out of your body and makes you happier. I cannot stress enough how important exercise is.
4. Don’t hold grudges.
Holding a grudge at someone is like having poison in your body. It slowly but surely kills you.
The time you waste on holding a grudge at someone can be used to change yourself or to forgive the other person. Being able to forgive those that hurt us is truly one of the most noble things that we can do.
5. Don’t try to change the world.
Don’t try to change the world, because you won’t be able to. If you want to make the world a better place, then start by changing yourself. People will see what you are doing and will follow your example.
6. Respect your parents.
Our parents are the closest people that we have. That is also often the reason why we feel so frustrated with them. They were there to see us first walk, go to school, find our first love, etc. Obviously, we all have had a countless amount of arguments with them, but that’s ok – they are our parents.
No matter how old we are or how successful, we will remain to be little children in their eyes. We are who we are only because of them, and that is a good enough of a reason to always respect and care for them.
7. You are what you eat.
Apart from exercising, one other thing that I cannot stress enough is our diet. They say it for a reason – we are what we eat.
When I ate a lot of junk food, I used to be overweight and unhappy with myself. Only when I seriously began to look at what I put in my mouth, I was able to transform. Not only I made a transformation in my body, but also in my mind. In fact, any athlete will tell you that, regardless of the amount of exercise you do, you won’t be able to change if your diet is wrong.
Food can be the source of energy for us, but it can also be what kills us.
8. Never look back with regret.
When we make mistakes and end up in a difficult situation, it feels natural to look back and regret some of the things that we have done. But what’s the point? These things are already in the past, and we didn’t know any better then. Look at them as life lessons that you needed in order to grow. Make sure you understand the meaning of them, learn from them, and focus on the now.
“Appreciate what you have while you have it. Don’t dwell on the past, don’t worry about the future, just live in the present and make the best of it”
9. If you want to get something right, do it yourself.
One of my most important life lessons states: if you want to be 100% confident that something will be done correctly, then do it yourself.
10. Don’t be a perfectionist.
There is no such thing as perfection. If you focus on trying to make everything perfect, then you will have a hard time. It’s totally ok to be 80% good. That is enough to stand out from the rest.
11. Help all living beings.
It’s important to love yourself, but it’s just as important to love and help others, including animals.
You can do it directly, by helping the ones near your, or you can do it indirectly, by donating money to charities. Both of these activities are just as important, and they allow us to look beyond gender, race and religion. When we give, we experience genuine joy.
12. Accept people for who they are, nobody is perfect.
We often in our head make an image of the perfect friend, parent or loved one. As a result, we have difficulties living with what we have.
The moment you realize that nobody is perfect, that will be the moment when your relationship with these people will improve.
13. It’s ok to be wrong.
No matter how careful you are, if you are getting outside of your comfort zone in order to achieve success, you will inevitably fail at times. That is why it is very important to be ready for it and to be able to accept it. Once you accept the fact that it is ok to make mistakes, you will overcome them a lot more easily.
There is no failure, only feedback.
14. The world is not so black and white.
When I was younger, I was convinced of certain things. I thought that there is materialism or spirituality, and that they cannot co-exist. As I grew, I learned that not everything needs to be divided so radically.
In order to be happy, we must learn to be flexible. If a situation requires us to take the road to the left, and the same situation later requires us to take the road to the right, then we must be ready to do so. If we keep making the same decisions over and over, we will keep seeing the same results.
15. You can make a difference.
The majority of people, including the younger me, think that one person cannot make a difference.
“If everyone throws trash on the streets, then there I can do it too.”
“If I don’t eat meat, it doesn’t mean that fewer cows will be killed.”
The truth behind this life lesson is that each single person can make a difference. In fact, some of the biggest changes on Earth happened because of one person. Just think of world religions or science. Never underestimate what you are capable of.
Meditation is just as important as eating or sleeping. It is what allows us to stay peaceful in this hectic world.
17. Law of Attraction
Simply put, like attracts like. The moment I realized that I can attract events and people into my life just by thinking about them, I saw some serious changes. I really do now believe in the Law of Attraction.
18. Sometimes, it’s better to let go than to keep holding.
One of the saddest life lessons learned is that not all relationships are meant to be. If you are unhappy, then you shouldn’t force it. Rather let go and move on. And never hold anger inside of you towards the other person. There are always two people in a relationship.
19. Life is short.
When I was young, life seemed to be infinitely long. But as I grew older, I realized that there actually isn’t that much time. And in order to achieve the things we desire, we really shouldn’t be losing any time.
When it became clear to me that I will, too, die one day, I began to take more action and to care less about the fears that previously have been holding me back. Also, it was then that I began to value others and my relationships with them.
Live every day like it’s your last.
20. There is no perfect moment to start.
There is no perfect moment to start a new business, hobby, relationship, etc. There will always be things holding us back. The goal is to just start.
21. There is no comfort and stability, only growth and death.
There will never be a moment when you will feel 100% comfort and stability. If you are not moving on, getting outside of your comfort zone and overcoming yourself in order to grow, you are most likely falling back.
22. You don’t need to be rich to be happy.
23. Don’t let your subjective thoughts about religion or politics ruin relationships.
Religion and politics will always be hot topics. Regardless of how objective you think you are, there will always be people that will tell you that you are wrong.
Don’t push your ideas onto others. You will not be able to prove anything to anyone. These topics are subjective, and can easily ruin even the strongest friendships.
24. It’s never too late to start.
Yes, life is short, but just because you didn’t think of something earlier, doesn’t mean that you can’t start it now.
Taikichiro Mori became a real-estate investor at age 51. In 1992 he was the richest man on Earth.
Peter Roget didn’t invent the Thesaurus until he was 73.
25. Don’t complain, work with what you have.
As I already said earlier, life is short. Instead of wasting time complaining about how difficult things are, work with what you have. The faster you start, the sooner you will reach your goals.
26. Dream big
It’s ok to dream big. As a matter of fact, you must dream big if you want to achieve big things. Everything begins with a thought, with a dream.
Remember the Law of Attraction? Like attracts like. You first dream about the reality you want to be a part of, and only after that, you are able to go out there and make it happen.
People will criticize you for dreaming big, but that’s ok. People tend to talk down at those that have bigger ambitions. What’s important is that you know where you are heading. Prove everyone wrong.
27. If you love someone, don’t forget to show it to them.
With time we get used to everything and everyone around us. We may begin to take them for granted.
Show the ones that mean a lot to you that you still love them and care for them. Make them happy and tell them how important they are to you. It’s important that you express these things out loud. If you do this, you will get the same in return. It will make your relationship stronger
27 Life lessons – conclusion
As we grow, new difficulties will arise and new solutions to them will be found. The goal is to notice these lessons and to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. It is all up to us how we live our lives. We are in charge of our own destiny.
These were my 27 life lessons learned in 27 years. What are yours?
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